Sunday, March 22, 2009


I have a blog over at Wordpress that I've been trying to get set up for months. At some point I'll make the switch. I'm thinking I should make it a less personal blog, a way for family and friends (more than the few who know about this one) to check in when they're so inclined. TJ suggested this, since I spend so much time emailing and trying to keep up with people. It's getting harder and harder, and I don't imagine I'll have much time for it at all come next fall. I'm just not sure an impersonal blog is my style. I don't know if I could do it. I already feel limited on here for a few reasons, and my family doesn't even know about this blog. Hmmm. It wouldn't be an outlet the way it is now, but maybe that's okay. In any case, I'm excited about the switch over to Wordpress.

This weekend was awash. We had a lot on our list, and none of it got done. TJ was at SXSW all day Friday and got home that night. He knew he was coming down with a cold beforehand, and declared himself officially sick by the time we went to bed. I took care of E most of Saturday and today, feeling super crappy, as usual, myself. TJ did do the bath and bedtime routines. Still, it's amazing to me the way men just stop everything when they're sick. I feel sorry for my poor sickie and have taken care of him and gone grocery shopping and gotten E out of the house so he could rest, but part of me is a *tad* bitter, given that I've felt sick for the past two months. Today TJ said innocently, "Are you ever going to wear your contacts again?" WHAT?!?! Are we on the same planet?!

Really, this is not to say that I don't have sympathy for his cold (he was shivering in bed next to me last night and it was sad), or that I don't appreciate all the wonderful things he does. I do! He's amazing. But . . . the gender differences are stunning sometimes. Don't get me started on the cat litter . . .


mama bee said...

It's interesting hearing you mention the gender differences. It's something I have been thinking about a lot lately. I thought it was bad in the beginning when Petunia needed to nurse all the time - something I had to do - but it almost seems worse in some ways now that papa B could do a lot of the things I'm doing but he doesn't because it's just not part of his life/routine the way it is mine.

It's also interesting that you are starting a less personal blog. The reason I haven't ever blogged about my feelings on the gender differences is that it feels too personal to me and my blog is shared with my family.

I find it an outlet even in it's impersonality... for some things. But other things stay bottled up. I don't know if you plan to keep this blog as well. It seems unlikely since you will have too much on your plate as is soon enough but it seems like a really nice release valve to have.

Of course there are always friends. People to talk to in person. I'm trying to do that more to make up for my impersonal blog. I will miss your blog though. It is very insightful.

I'm sure you have plenty of closer friends, but keep me in mind if you ever need to vent (or whatever) in a non-blog format.

Heather said...

Reading this makes me not want to have only an impersonal blog! Really, I'm not sure it's in my nature. Hmmm. I'll have to see. Maybe I could still keep this one and have the other one be mainly pictures and major milestones . . .

As for the gender/marriage stuff, I could've gone on and on, to be honest, but I held back. The few times I've posted about marriage issues, I've felt weird and exposed afterwards, and it's made me not want to delve too deeply into that stuff on here.

But it's so nice to know that you've encountered similar frustrations with gender differences in marriage. We should compare notes sometime. :)